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		<title>How to Set Ambitious S.M.A.R.T Goals and Deal With the Pressure They&#8217;ll Bring in 2021</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Dec 2020 14:18:46 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[After some ups and downs Nathan is asking himself "Are the benefits and happiness that come from smashing really big specific goals worth the possible disappointment and energy drainage of falling short?"...]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element tve-froala fr-box fr-basic"><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fce"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2ec">As 2021 comes around Nathan finds himself torn about setting business and personal goals for the new year.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fd0"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2f2">Having clear and audacious SMART goals has led to some of his biggest achievements in life and business.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fd2"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2f4">But the disappointment that's come from falling short of some of those audacious SMART goals has left a mark.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fd4"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2f6">He now finds himself at the point where he’s not sure if the trade off is worth it.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fd6"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2f7">“Are the benefits and happiness that come from smashing really big specific goals worth the possible disappointment and energy drainage of falling short?”</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fd7"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2f9">A common piece of advice he gets from fellow entrepreneurs is to follow a different approach:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fd9"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2fb">“Instead of going after SMART goals follow a more ‘habits-based system’.”</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fda"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2fd">The logic behind this is:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fdc"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c2fe">Correct intentions (vision) + Good effort (habits) = Good enough results without the added stress and negative pressure.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fdd"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed3c300">But this doesn’t sit well with Nathan. Something still feels off. </span></p><p data-css="tve-u-176aca48db7" style=""><br></p><h1 data-css="tve-u-176aca34d3c" class="" style="">Separating Logic and Emotion</h1><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fe0"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed4172d">Let’s call a spade a spade. From a dry logical standpoint, creating clear goals is the best way to create a plan of action that will lead to success.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fe2"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed41730">Reverse engineering a vision, followed by OKR's, and then reverse engineered SMART Goals is the most logically sound approach to success.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fe3"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed41732">This structure gives clear feedback about whether we’ve succeeded or not and what shortcomings need to be remedied.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fe5"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed41736">Now while this makes logical sense, we humans aren’t logical creatures.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fe6"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed41738">We’re emotional ones and the mere thought of failing to achieve our goals makes us FEEL very uncomfortable.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fe8"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed41739">The real reason why people adopt the “Don’t have goals, simply create good habits” approach isn’t logical, it's emotional.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fe9"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed4173b">It doesn’t make logical sense to take action without having a clear definition of what victory is, right?&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56feb"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed4173d">Yes, entrepreneurship is chaotic and stressful, but shedding goals in favor of habits isn’t a valid way to reduce the pressure of possibly not achieving our goals.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fec"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed4173f">It’s a way to run away from our inherent fear of failure.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fee"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed41740">So what can we do instead ?</span></p><p data-css="tve-u-176aca437e4" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca421ca"> </span></p><h1 data-css="tve-u-176aca44ce3" class="" style="">Is there a Better Question?</h1><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56ff1"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed44f21">So what if instead of asking the easy and surface level question of:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56ff3"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed44f25">“Which is better: SMART goals or Habits based systems?”</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56ff5"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed44f27">We ask the much more complex, challenging and uncomfortable question of:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56ff6"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed44f28">“How can we set out clear and audacious SMART goals for ourselves and our businesses without getting so emotionally rattled in the process?”</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56ff8"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed44f2e">Yes, it is harder to do, but wouldn’t answering that question get us 10x better results?</span></p><p data-css="tve-u-176aca501fa" style=""><br></p><h1 data-css="tve-u-176aed56ffb" class="" style="">Creating Clarity</h1><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56ffd"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed46ef9">The first thing we need to do in order to not be held captive to our emotions is to recognize that we need to separate this big goal setting thing into three different parts.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed56fff"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed46f02">Instead of thinking:</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57000"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed46f07">“How will I approach this whole goal setting thing?”</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57002"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed46f0b">We should ask instead:</span></p><p data-css="tve-u-176aed57003" dir="ltr" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aed46f0d">“What are the three components of effective goal setting and execution?”</span></p><p data-css="tve-u-176aed57003" dir="ltr" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aed46f0d"></span><br></p><h1 data-css="tve-u-176aca531f4" style="" class="">The 3 Step Process</h1><ol class=""><li dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed4815a">Big picture strategy and goal setting</li><li dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed4815c">Day-to-day execution</li><li style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed4904a"><span data-css="tve-u-176aca555a9">Conducting an emotionally detached debrief of the progress made</span></li></ol><p data-css="tve-u-176aca59210" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9b7">What will following this kind of process get us:</span></p><h3 class="" data-css="tve-u-176aca5e9f1" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9b9">1. Big picture strategy and goals setting:&nbsp;</span></h3><p data-css="tve-u-176aca5e9f3" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9bb">Reverse engineer the vision all the way down into clear SMART goals.&nbsp;</span></p><h3 class="" data-css="tve-u-176aca5e9f5" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9bc">2. Day-to-day execution basis:&nbsp;</span></h3><blockquote class="" data-css="tve-u-176aca5e9f7" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9be"><em><span data-css="tve-u-176ac9a85dd">“Why would I be wound up? I’m either ready, or I’m not. Worrying about it right now ain’t gonna change a damn thing.”&nbsp;</span></em></span></blockquote><blockquote class="" data-css="tve-u-176aca5e9f9" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9c0"><em><span data-css="tve-u-176ac9a85e0">– Floyd Mayweather, Jr. on dealing with nerves on the day of a title fight.</span></em></span></blockquote><p data-css="tve-u-176aca5e9fa" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9c1">Focus solely on what’s in front of you that day and what you can control - your focus and effort. Regardless of that day’s results, be proud of showing up and doing your best.</span></p><h3 class="" data-css="tve-u-176aca5e9fc" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9c5">3. Conduct and emotionally detached &nbsp;debrief:</span></h3><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed5700f"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed4c813">If your goals weren’t met then analyze what went wrong from a dry, emotionless planning perspective. Employ logic as to what went wrong and why.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57011"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed4c817">“I did great! I showed up and did my best. With that said what are the gaps in my strategy that need to be fixed moving forward?”&nbsp;</span></p><blockquote dir="ltr" class="" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57012"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed4c819"><strong><em>Quick Tip: The easiest way to do remove emotional thinking is by detaching yourself. Instead of thinking “What should I do?”, ask “What would I advise someone who has this issue to do?”</em></strong></span></blockquote><p data-css="tve-u-176aca5ea00" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca5d9cb">Now this might sound simple in theory, but it’s not easy in practice, right?</span></p><p data-css="tve-u-176aca5ea01" style=""><br></p><h1 data-css="tve-u-176aca60ec8" class="" style="">What Will You Decide?</h1><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57017"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502c7">Nathan was thinking about his goal setting dilemma in the wrong way.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57018"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502c9">The possible success and achievement that come from setting audacious SMART goals Vs. The potential emotional downfall of disappointment.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed5701a"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502cb">But as you can see, there’s a better solution.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed5701b"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502cd">Instead of emotionally running away from the fear of failure and disappointment he can follow this 3 step process, gain clarity, dare to be audacious and go big.&nbsp;</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed5701d"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502ce">This three step process can take goal setting and move it from our panic zone and into our growth zone.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed5701e"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502d0">And honestly that’s as much as we can ask for.</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57020"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502d2">It now comes down to making a decision. Will you secede to your emotions and let them dictate your goals setting and in turn your life and business or will you systematically employ logic, combat your emotions and dare to set SMART audacious goals?</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57021"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed502d3">What will you decide?</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57023"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed516e3"><br></span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57024"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed516e5">Have a great 2021,</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57025"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed516e7">Itamar</span></p><p dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-176aed57027"><span data-css="tve-u-176aed516e7"></span><br></p><p data-css="tve-u-176aca65709" style=""><span data-css="tve-u-176aca641f3">P.S. 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		<title>Is “Deep Work” Actually Hurting Your Productivity?</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Itamar Marani]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Dec 2020 12:50:34 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Is this fascination with deep work actually ruining the productivity of entrepreneurs and executives alike? Has it become an entrapment?]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="thrv_wrapper thrv-columns"><div class="tcb-flex-row v-2 tcb--cols--1"><div class="tcb-flex-col" data-css="tve-u-17637e7e128" style=""><div class="tcb-col"><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><h2 dir="ltr" class="" id="t-1607255065244">A Tale of Two Times</h2><p dir="ltr">As a CEO Nathan strongly believes in the productivity benefits of deep work.</p><p dir="ltr">In 2018 he read the book, some articles, decided to give it a try and immediately felt the benefits of it in his business. He now swears by it. </p><p dir="ltr">In fact he saw so much value in it that he decided that for productivity's sake it’s not worth it to work on his meaningful projects during regular business hours when he’s likely to get interrupted.&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr">Because he’s the CEO he was able to tailor his schedule to have 3 chunks of deep work per week and left all his meaningful work to those time slots.</p><p dir="ltr">This is a great example of an optimization. He found something that helps him create better outcomes for himself and his business and leaned into it. This is something we should all strive to do!</p><p dir="ltr">But recently, those chunks of time he set aside have been taken over by other things. Putting out business fires from the pandemic… Meetings running over time… Family obligations.</p><p dir="ltr">So what happens now that those deep work time-blocks are no longer available?</p><p dir="ltr">How will Nathan be able to deal with it and will he be capable of getting the meaningful work done in less optimal conditions? Will he be able to easily switch back into his old Pre-Deep Work work habits that successfully got his business off the ground?</p><p dir="ltr">I’m not so sure. Here’s why.</p><p dir="ltr"><br></p><h2 dir="ltr" id="t-1607255065245" class="">Optimization vs. Dependency</h2><p dir="ltr">Making an effort to optimize our lives is massively important. It can save us lots of time, money and pain. You’ll produce some of your very best stuff from the heights of Optimization Mountain.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17637e5cc70"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img class="tve_image wp-image-1258" alt="Optimization Mountain" data-id="1258" width="283" data-init-width="283" height="300" data-init-height="300" title="Optimization Mountain" loading="lazy" src="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Optimization-Mountain-283x300.png?lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0" data-width="283" data-height="300"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;">Being able to work from Optimization Mountain is an art in and of itself that isn’t to be ignored… but there’s a dark slippery slope connected to it.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;">When we find success with a certain thing (tool or even lucky charm) or a process (like deep work) our brains start tying success to that and that’s a very slippery slope. &nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr">Our brains get confused and start to get sucked into false narratives as to what’s actually causing our success. We start giving certain things too much power, become reliant on them and start sliding down that slippery slope towards Dependency Valley.</p><p dir="ltr">Dependency Valley is a dark and dangerous place. It’s a place where the fear of perfectionism runs strong, procrastination rules supreme and very little if anything of value gets done.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17637e786d6" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img class="tve_image wp-image-1257" alt="Dangers of Deep Work and Productivity" data-id="1257" width="275" data-init-width="453" height="299" data-init-height="492" title="Dangers of Deep Work and Productivity" loading="lazy" src="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Dependency-Valley.png?lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0" data-width="275" data-height="299" style="" data-css="tve-u-17637e78fa2" srcset="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Dependency-Valley.png?lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0 453w,https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Dependency-Valley.png?size=384x417&lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0 384w" sizes="(max-width: 453px) 100vw, 453px"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;">The real issue with Dependency Valley is that our brains end up there through a slow and subtle decline that is very hard to notice in real time. We’re usually not even aware we’re there until it’s too late.</p><p dir="ltr">The first subtle and slippery step form Optimization Mountain towards Dependency Valley starts when we cross over from thinking:&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr">“I’m a capable human being able of achieving great things if I put out smart effort… and this thing is helpful tool when available”&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr">To:</p><p dir="ltr">“Man I had so much success when that tool/process was there for me”&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr">Which can subtly lead to:</p><p dir="ltr">“Well if I can only produce my best when I have this thing/I’m in the zone then there’s no point in trying right now. It will be wasted energy. I should save that energy for when the situation is more favorable.”</p><p dir="ltr">That’s the point where we cross the dangerous threshold from the productive Land of Optimization to Dependency Valley.</p><p dir="ltr">Sounds silly, right?</p><p dir="ltr">But here’s why this happens in our heads.</p><p dir="ltr"><br></p><h2 dir="ltr" id="t-1607255065246" class="">Evolution and Failure</h2><p dir="ltr">Humans do not like the idea of failure, especially if it’s public.</p><p dir="ltr">Our very primal brains, who still haven’t caught up to the fact that it’s 2020, think of failure like this:</p><p dir="ltr">“If we fail and look foolish or fail and waste precious resources then the tribe won’t like us. If the tribe doesn’t like us then we might get kicked out. If we get kicked out and we’re alone in the African Savanna then we’ll probably get eaten by a lion.”</p><p dir="ltr">Since our brains don’t like the prospect of being eaten by a lion they naturally tell us “It’s probably best to wait until conditions are perfect before we give this a go.”</p><p dir="ltr">Now that’s a very extreme simplification of things but social isolation and judgement are two of the biggest impediments to people’s success... and Dependency Valley was forged from those fears.</p><p dir="ltr"><br></p><h2 dir="ltr" id="t-1607255065247" class="">Human Complexity and the Big Picture</h2><p dir="ltr">So with all of that in mind, what do you think would happen to 99.9% of people if you told them that there’s data backed studies that say:</p><p dir="ltr">“Deep work allows you to quickly master complicated information and produce better results in less time. Deep work will make you better at what you do and provide the sense of true fulfillment that comes from craftsmanship.”</p><p dir="ltr">What if they actually experience this productivity flow and have now created a new benchmark in their head of what they believe should be their standard?</p><p dir="ltr">Is it possible that they’ll start to develop a dependency on it?</p><p dir="ltr">That’s the issue with Deep Work. It attached to a slippery slope.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17637e6e38f"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img class="tve_image wp-image-1259" alt="slippery Mindset slope" data-id="1259" width="213" data-init-width="213" height="300" data-init-height="300" title="slippery Mindset slope" loading="lazy" src="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/slippery-slope-213x300.jpg?lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0" data-width="213" data-height="300" style="" data-css="tve-u-17637e6f6ef" srcset="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/slippery-slope-213x300.jpg?lossy=1&amp;strip=1&amp;webp=0 213w, https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/slippery-slope.jpg?lossy=1&amp;strip=1&amp;webp=0 316w" sizes="(max-width: 213px) 100vw, 213px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p dir="ltr">In an ideal world Deep Work is an amazing thing and we can all make effort to create more of these focused sessions in our week.</p><p dir="ltr">However since the world is not ideal, there’s a psychological danger here to be cautious of.</p><p dir="ltr">Not all months, weeks or days will be ideal, but that can’t be an excuse not to get to work on the impactful and meaningful things!</p><p dir="ltr">To put it simply we will never reach our maximum potential being fair weather workers. We must show up on a daily basis and put in work, even when conditions aren’t ideal. Otherwise by definition they’re leaving something on the table.</p><p dir="ltr">When the situation calls for it we have to overcome the natural fears that suck us into Dependency Valley.&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr"><br></p><h2 dir="ltr" id="t-1607255065248" class="">So What’s the First Step out of Dependency Valley?</h2><p dir="ltr">In most cases simple awareness is more than half the battle. If you can recognize that your mind is starting to slide into Dependency Valley or has settled there then you can start to take corrective action.</p><p dir="ltr">An easy way to recognize this is whenever we hear whispers in the back of our head saying:&nbsp;</p><p dir="ltr">“Shouldn't we just leave this for a time when we can really be in the zone?”</p><p dir="ltr">It’s a red light.</p><p dir="ltr">That’s a signal that our lesser self, the un-evolved part of our brain who’s more afraid of surviving in the savannas rather than thriving in the 21st century has taken control.</p><p dir="ltr">It’s a signal that we’ve actually become entrapped by the concept of Deep Work.</p><p dir="ltr">When this happens you have to ask yourself if you’re ok with being comfortable and complacent in Dependency Valley or will you decide to do what’s necessary in order to see the results that you truly want?</p></div></div></div></div></div><div class="tcb_flag" style="display: none"></div>
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		<title>How to Make Tough Decisions &#8211; The Israeli Special Force&#8217;s Hindsight Matrix</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[We’ve all been there. A tough situation where we have to make up our minds and decide between doing what’s right and doing what’s easy. 

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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p data-css="tve-u-1729d7becca">We’ve all been there. A tough situation where we have to make up our minds and decide between doing what’s right and doing what’s easy.&nbsp;</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p data-css="tve-u-1729d7bbcfa">So the question is, how do we make a decision that we're not going to regret? How do we ensure that we don't succumb to our fears, emotions and weaknesses and make the easy decision instead of doing what we know is right?</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_contentbox_shortcode thrv-content-box jusiowee" data-css="tve-u-172a1e4b02a" style="">
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<div class="tve-cb" data-css="tve-u-172a1e4b02f"><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption jusioi2d" data-css="tve-u-172a1e4b030" data-float="1" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame" style="width: 100%;"><img loading="lazy" class="tve_image wp-image-41617" alt="" width="149" height="117" title="Quotation_marks_image_white-opaque" data-id="41617" src="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/tcb_content_templates/contentblock/images/Quotation_marks_image_white-opaque.png?lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0" style="" data-width="149" data-height="117" data-init-width="175" data-init-height="137" data-css="tve-u-172a1e4b031"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element jusio4db" data-css="tve-u-172a1e4b032" data-float="1"><p>"Easy Choices, Hard Life.</p><p>Hard Choices, Easy Life"</p></div></div>
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</div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element" data-css="tve-u-1729d8cea11" style=""><h1 class="" style="text-align: center;"><strong>The March and the Meeting</strong></h1></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p>J was one of the best of us. He was mentally tough, emotionally mature and a great person to be around. He was also limping and later found out that he had grade 3 shin splints. He was basically walking around on cracked bones.&nbsp;</p><p>In a couple days time we’re scheduled to complete one of the most grueling exercises in the whole training period. A 120 km march to get your unit’s beret. A status symbol that signals that you’ve graduated advanced bootcamp and are now a part of the unit.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-1729d80f2ac" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img class="tve_image wp-image-1030" alt="" data-id="1030" width="300" data-init-width="300" height="226" data-init-height="226" title="מסע כומתה" loading="lazy" src="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/מסע-כומתה.jpg?lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0" data-width="300" data-height="226" data-css="tve-u-172a1e7768d" style=""></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p>On the days leading to the march there was a discussion about whether J should even complete the march or sit it out and heal. Most of us felt that there was no benefit for him to make the march and that he should sit it out, heal and get ready for the next phases.</p><p>Our officer, however, thought differently. He made a decision and gave his orders, regardless of how we felt and what we thought. J would complete the march.</p><p>After completion of the march we had our customary Friday team meeting. It’s a space where we, the soldiers, can openly say what’s on our minds to the officers and to each other.</p><p>This Friday’s meeting was a space for us to recap what the march was like and how our first week in the unit’s base had gone. J’s situation was on everyone’s minds as he was walking in obvious agony and it was obvious that he would need to sit out entirely for a couple weeks to heal.</p><h6 class="">Our officer addressed it head on. The conversation went like this.</h6><p><strong>Officer to J:</strong> “I know you’re hurt, but are you happy you did the march, got your beret and can say that you did that?”</p><p><strong>J:</strong> “Yeah, I’m happy I did it.”</p><p><strong>Officer:</strong> “That’s exactly the point. Your mental resiliency is still in it’s infancy. You’re making decisions based on how you’ll feel in the short term. I’m trying to teach you how to make decisions that you’ll be proud of in hindsight.”</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_contentbox_shortcode thrv-content-box jusiowee" data-css="tve-u-1729d8bde8c" style="">
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</div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element" data-css="tve-u-1729d8cc048" style=""><h1 class="" style="text-align: center;"><strong>The Hindsight Matrix</strong></h1></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p>Honestly, at the time, I didn’t get it. That officer was someone we didn’t like and since it came from his mouth we gave it less merit… But he was absolutely right.</p><p>There’s no simpler way to make good decisions then to ask yourself the following question when you hit that fork in the road “What decision will I be proud of in hindsight?” “When I look back at this in a day, a month, a year, a decade, when the momentary discomfort has subsided &nbsp;… What decision will I be proud of in hindsight?”</p></div><div class="thrv-content-block tcb-local-vars-root thrv_wrapper" data-css="tve-u-1729d8747da" tcb-template-name="Quote 03" tcb-template-id="41614" tcb-template-pack="137" data-keep-css_id="1"><div class="thrive-group-edit-config" style="display: none !important"></div><div class="thrive-local-colors-config" style="display: none !important"></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_contentbox_shortcode thrv-content-box dynamic-group-jusiowee" data-css="tve-u-1729d8747db" style="">
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<div class="tve-cb" data-css="tve-u-1729d8747e0"><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption dynamic-group-jusioi2d" data-css="tve-u-1729d8747e1" data-float="1" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame" style="width: 100%;"><img loading="lazy" class="tve_image wp-image-41617" alt="" width="149" height="117" title="Quotation_marks_image_white-opaque" data-id="41617" src="https://826523.smushcdn.com/1794837/wp-content/uploads/tcb_content_templates/contentblock/images/Quotation_marks_image_white-opaque.png?lossy=1&strip=1&webp=0" style="" data-width="149" data-height="117" data-init-width="175" data-init-height="137" data-css="tve-u-1729d87d305"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element dynamic-group-jusio4db" data-css="tve-u-1729d8747e2" data-float="1"><p>"What decision will I be proud of in hindsight?"</p></div></div>
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</div></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p>That’s the lesson. We usually avoid making hard decisions because of the momentary discomfort we will likely face. We secede to the discomfort and make decisions that don’t serve us in the long run. Decisions that we end up regretting when we look back.</p><p>Ask yourself, in which situation in your life have you missed out on something great just because you chose what was easier instead of what was right.&nbsp;</p><p>There’s a saying, “Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.” Here’s a checklist to make sure you make the correct and hard decisions that will lead to an easy life.&nbsp;</p></div><div class="thrv-content-block tcb-local-vars-root thrv_wrapper" data-css="tve-u-1729d8ed82f" tcb-template-name="List of Steps 07" tcb-template-id="41800" tcb-template-pack="137" data-keep-css_id="1" style=""><div class="thrive-group-edit-config" style="display: none !important"></div><div class="thrive-local-colors-config" style="display: none !important"></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_contentbox_shortcode thrv-content-box" data-css="tve-u-1729d8ed830">
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<div class="tve-cb" data-css="tve-u-1729d8ed832"><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element dynamic-group-jv67h2b2" data-css="tve-u-1729d8ed833"><h2 class="" data-css="tve-u-1729d8aaef7" style="text-align: center;"><strong>The Hindsight </strong><strong>Matrix Checklist</strong></h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_contentbox_shortcode thrv-content-box dynamic-group-jv6hwkt8" data-css="tve-u-1729d8ed836">
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<div class="tve-cb" data-css="tve-u-1729d8ed838"><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element dynamic-group-jv675eya" data-css="tve-u-1729d8ed83b"><p data-css="tve-u-172a1e6dc5d">1. What’s more important for me, short term comfort or long term growth?</p></div></div>
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</div></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><h2 class="" data-css="tve-u-1729d8b378b" style="text-align: center;"><strong>Recap</strong></h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p>The next time you face a dilemma, a situation where you’re not sure if you should choose Option A or Option B remind yourself that “Pain and discomfort are temporary, but pride is forever” and ask yourself “Will I be proud of this decision in hindsight?”&nbsp;</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p>Do that and you’ll arrive at a decision that will serve you in the long run and that you will proud of in hindsight. Now you just have to decide and execute.&nbsp;</p><p>It’s simple not easy.</p><p>Itamar</p><p><br></p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p><b>P.S. Join our newsletter&nbsp;to cultivate an elite mindset that will enable you to:</b></p><ul class=""><li dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-172a1f41cff">Make better business decisions that aren’t tied to your personal issues</li><li dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-172a1f41d01">Control your stress response and make effective pragmatic decisions</li><li dir="ltr" style="" data-css="tve-u-172a1f41d03">Aim higher in life and business… and then aggressively pursue it</li></ul></div><div class="tcb_flag" style="display: none"></div>
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